Some advice, the real mind. It will be all uphill with a paid liar. And you probably won't get anywhere. Use all the things wrong against them and make them do you right. The paint....well how can I explain this....the paint & auto/body I use (friends with the owner) locally is the best around my metro. His work is so good that the Ferrari and Lambo dealerships use him. If a Ferrari or Lambo goes to the dealer for paint or bodywork, or both, they send it to my guy. And for everyone that uses him that isn't in the 1% with their "ballah" vehicles, his prices are good. Half his business is high end, half pedestrian vehicles, run of the mill.
I bought a hatch STi in November 2008. I found out I could get one for 4k under invoice so I did my negotiation all over the phone, it came down to two dealers and only one had my color/wheels combo I wanted. We get the deal done over the phone same day. Amazing too because I'd been following the car close that year but hadn't logged onto the STi forum for a month so all in one day when I found out about the discount. Anyways, I go sign papers and get the car. It was raining pretty hard that night, cold too. I drive home in flood conditions. As soon as it's light outside the next day I see bird sheet baked into the clear. That was on their lot where it happened because I drove it once, from the dealer to home in the rain. Like you, had to go back to the dealer and make some noise. They offer to fix it via their body shop they use, I refuse, and make more noise, insisting that it's going to my guy only, nobody is spraying my car but him, brand new. Took me talking to the GM to get that ok'd. Lot of bs. Anyways, my guy repaints the entire roof. When he is done it's better than the factory paint.
Sorry for the long winded story, but find the ace paint guy around you. Figure out where the nice stuff goes and get the areas you aren't happy with repainted and insist for proper blending. A good paint guy is gonna know what blending is. Damaged paint, you don't just fix that, deal has to be blended and done right. If you find the right guy the paint will be better than new. More attention detail compared to the busters in the paint booth in Alabama.
Then I'd be insisting you get the max warranty Honda offers for free. Turn a negative into a positive. 7, 8, or 10 year factory bumper to bumper warranty is worth its weight in gold for you personally, or if you sell it one day. It'll fetch more money. I'd also be eying some accessories on them as well. You won't get anywhere with a replacement with a liar but all this other stuff can be obtained. Good luck my friend. At full pop for a BE I'd be just as pissed as you, it's bs. That Lincoln Alabama plant has some real bad problems with Quality Control, real bad. And these problems with harnesses is bad part suppliers Honda is buying stuff through. And the trifecta on the deal is some poor assembly on the assembly line. I feel for you guys because it ain't right for new buyers to go through hell just to get their investment back to where it should have been when it was delivered to the dealer off the semi. I'd be livid. Stand your ground up there, insist on that much extended warranty, you deserve it.