Hi Ashley,
Since you’re looking for three rows, that rules out the Toyota FourRunner. Toyota’s comparable offering to the Pilot would be the Highlander. Better yet their Grand Highlander offers extra space and a nice hybrid drive system.
But you also mention muddy roads and farm use. For a vehicle that is going to see a lot of rough conditions, I would be looking at the Chevy Tahoe/Suburban. These models are offered with a very impressive and fuel efficient turbodiesel engine, which would be my choice.
Best of luck and fire away with any additional questions.
The 4R does have 3 rows in top trims. It wouldn’t be a bad choice for the farm, but kinda pricey in the higher trims.
The Pilot Trailsport is an awesome vehicle. I’m sure if you check it out you will be impressed.
Unless you’re doing trucky things with the SUV like hauling bricks or rock climbing or something, a unibody SUV will work fine, and in fact the suspension will likely be more to your liking on things like gravel roads, rubboard surfaces, etc.
The Chevy Tahoe starts at $6K over the Pilot TS, and goes up from there, so IMO a very expensive toy for the farm. Plus big and gas guzzly and hard to park in town.
I wouldn’t buy a diesel anything unless I were towing a ton, but living on a farm maybe you’re used to diesel. In town it doesn’t really make sense.